Know Thyself and Workplace Conflict

Knowing thyself is in-intensity know-how of “who I am.” and “how I am.” This know-how of one’s self is manufactured from the formal and casual reviews of residing lifestyles. But, to be clear, this know-how isn’t the end result of simply “having” reviews, however, is the end result of deep, steady, and aware mirrored image on one’s reviews, i.e., instructions learned (the good, the awful, and the ugly).

Much self-attention happens because of the end result of experiencing an internal struggle that tugs on our sleeve and forces us to extrade. One of the effects of such transformation is that we regularly extrade our fee machine that’s contemplated in new approaches of thinking, being, and doing.








Examples of reviews that deliver us to recognize ourselves, self-attention, and aware extrade are mid-lifestyle crises (which, via way of means of the manner, are affecting parents in advance and in advance a while these days now not simply at “mid-lifestyles”), fitness troubles, dating troubles, profession troubles, economic troubles and mental, emotional or mental troubles such coronary heart attacks, divorces and failed relationships, lack of job, bankruptcy, stress, rust out, burnout, despair and addictions to chemical and non-chemical (food, alcohol, exercise, porn, blogging, etc.) substances.

In the place of the business environment, organizational attention is the totality of every employee’s self-attention. Where personnel is extra self-aware, place of business struggle may be minimum and constructive. In a place of business environment, in which the bulk of personnel are non-self-aware, place of business struggle may be insidious, toxic, all-pervasive, and destructive.

The backside line is that the manner your organization, silo, branch, or crew handles interpersonal struggle can both be revel in of aliveness, vitality, juiciness, fun, collegiality, camaraderie, or toxicity, demoralization, resentment, disrespect, resistance, and derailment.

The principal motive of “loss strategies” in businesses isn’t because of strategies, however, rather, is extra regularly due to dysfunctional interpersonal dynamics.

More and extra in trendy organizations, fulfillment and effectiveness are depending on the synergies which might be created while human beings are in alignment with each other. When parents’ attitudes, beliefs, and values are in alignment, their behaviors are consonant and supportive of the departmental, crew, and organizational goals.

When one is pushed via way of means of self-restricting and self-defeating non-public biases, prejudices, beliefs, perspectives, and assumptions all of which might be unstated and regularly subconscious discord most customarily guidelines and ruins the day, guidelines and ruins the meeting, guidelines and ruins the strategies and guidelines and ruins relationships till………..till parents agree to “out the elephants” withinside the room and consciously cope with dysfunctional behaviors that underlie struggle.

When leaders, managers, and supervisors have the energy and braveness to recognize and agree that “gentle skills” are the “difficult skills” of powerful relationships at paintings (and do the paintings this is required to deliver human beings to that stage of attention), defensiveness, resistance, push-back, turf, and ego troubles start to soften and metabolize in a way that human beings start to experience and be freer of their behaviors and in a manner that fosters extra mutual recognition of the distinction of each other.

The manner of understanding thyself starts while one consciously explores “how I am” and “who I am” when it comes to “the manner I am”, i.e., the manner I communicate, with others. Self-mastery explores:

· my verbal and nonverbal behaviors
· my emotional behaviors – how I explicit my emotions and emotions (and if I explicit emotions and emotions)
· my intentions which might be below my behaviors – hidden agendas, or disharmony in which what I “do” is out of alignment with what I “say

Know thyself calls for taking an aware study of how I revel in myself in paintings and the way I revel in my interactions with others. Self-mastery calls for us to study the disconnects that exist among what we say, think, experience, and do disconnects that result in being out of harmony, integrity, being unethical, being disrespectful (in idea and action) that bring about counterproductive styles of behavior, and struggle.

Know thyself calls for taking an aware study of why, for example, I want to lie, cheat, steal, bully, gossip, be disagreeable, disrespectful, resistant, non-trusting, sabotaging, discourteous, and insensitive.

Know thyself calls for taking an aware study “in which I’m coming from” and whether “in which I’m coming from” is supportive or restricting to the crew, branch, and organization.

The backside line of understanding thy self and struggle is this: the struggle is not often the end result of “technical” troubles. Most regularly, the struggle is primarily based totally on a few underlying worries and is an interpersonal, dynamics issue.

People relate to each other on the premise of a “venture orientation” or on the premise of a “dating orientation.” Task orientation facilities around functions, roles, and commercial enterprise techniques and tactics. Relationship orientation facilities around trust, safety, know-how, recognition, and sensitivity.